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How to Create Your Own Spiritual Rituals

When we think about health, we often focus automatically on our bodies.  We wonder what new or modified workout will help us firm up, trim down or strengthen our hearts.  We examine our diets and nutrition, our sleep habits, the skin products we use and options for physical self-care such as acupuncture and massage.  Rarely do we ask ourselves what steps we should take to support our spirit.  Our soul.

Yet health is inclusive. For better or worse, body and soul are intrinsically connected.  Health means bringing the body and soul into harmony.  Our bodies are not a set of separate parts, but rather are whole—and one with the soul.  

This became crystal clear to me after the surgeon’s mistake that altered my life forever. Living with one half of one adrenal gland, my body will never be fully healed.  The only thing I can do to improve my health is to focus on rebuilding and revitalizing my spirit, as I write in On the Way to Casa Lotus.

So I’ve created a number of rituals that have helped me maintain and grow my spiritual fitness. They keep me grounded and help me listen to the voice of my soul.  They’re not connected with a religious practice; nor do they need to be.  The most important thing is for them to have meaning to me.  Here are some of the steps I’ve taken that you can take, too.

Create amulets 

Before my second surgery, friends gathered at my home the way you would gather for a baby or bridal shower. They gave me a collection of polished stones, each one etched with a word of blessing—peace, strength, grace—and presented me with a ramillete espiritual (“spiritual bouquet”) of hopes and prayers. The next morning I placed the stones in my suitcase with all my comfort needs. To this day they uplift my spirit, bringing me hope and strength.

Write your own affirmations and treat them like prayers

Before my health crisis I was forced to uproot from Mexico for my family’s safety.  We moved to Austin. During my early days there I felt lost. So I created a display with several dozen colorful little round boxes that I attached to a wall in my home. On white scrap paper, I wrote a good intention for each box: Stay patient. Speak your truth. Be open.  Seeing the boxes, I think about what each intention means to me and remind myself to act on that meaning.  In this way, they are like prayers.

Set up a “grateful corner” in your home

I have a sacred space in my home that I call my “grateful corner.” During my post-surgery healing journey I expanded it by adding cards, letters, and small works of art. I meditated beside it.  When I closed my eyes, I envisioned myself at the center of a swirling galaxy of love, where my family surrounded me.  Devoting a special place in your home or your yard filled with spiritual meaning where you can relax, meditate, set intentions or simply breathe is a beautiful, uplifting ritual.

Start a daily spirituality practiceand stick with it

Like yoga and journaling, spirituality flourishes with regular practice.  I find popular approaches such as meditation, mindfulness and gratitude to be very effective.  There are dozens of apps you can use that provide guided meditation, soothing sounds, sleep stories, breathing exercises and more.  My favorite is Calm, and I especially like its masterclass on gratitude by Tamara Levitt.  Once you’ve found an app you like, you can dedicate time to immersing yourself in it in your grateful corner, surrounded by your amulets and affirmations!

These are just a few ideas from my own experience.  You may have plenty of your own.  The important thing is to identify the routines, objects, places, sounds, smells or other experiences that help you feel grounded and at peace. Make a list. Build simple rituals around them. Try incorporating these regularly into your weeks and see how you feel!